Being Single Is Not a Consolation Prize: Embracing the Beauty of Solitude

In a world that constantly sells us the idea that romantic love is the ultimate prize, it can be easy to see singleness as a waiting room, a consolation prize, or even a failure. But the truth is, singleness is not a lesser state of being. It is not the absence of something essential. Singleness is a whole, beautiful, sacred way of life all on its own.

We were born single. We enter and leave this world as individuals, and the deep work of being human happens primarily in solitude. Even when we are surrounded by people we love, our thoughts, choices, and spirit remain uniquely our own. To be single is not to be lacking—it is to return to our natural state of being with ourselves.

Solitude is not loneliness. It is space. It is room to breathe, to create, to reflect. In solitude, we can hear God more clearly, reconnect with our own voice, and learn to love ourselves not as a project to fix, but as a presence to nurture. In solitude, we reclaim our time, our energy, and our identity.

When we learn to embrace solitude, we stop grasping for connection as a way to escape ourselves. Instead, we begin to build connection from a place of wholeness. Relationships, then, become a choice—not a survival mechanism. They become an overflow of love, not a grasp for validation.

Choosing singleness—whether for a season or a lifetime—is not a rejection of love. It is a powerful expression of love: love for your own life, your own soul, your own sacred path. It is not a backup plan. It is a beautiful way forward.

So here’s to the single ones. The ones who eat dinner alone and enjoy every bite. The ones who take themselves out on coffee dates and walks through the park. The ones who listen for God in the quiet and dance in their kitchens. You are not missing out. You are living fully.

You are not in the waiting room. You are already home.